BULLIES come in all ages

BULLIES come in all ages
(click to see movie trailer)

Surround yourself with positive people,
energy, and situations;
always avoid negativity.


Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
So, love the people who treat you right.

Forgive, and then forget about the ones who don't.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Sassy Says

Sassy has a "lunch and shopping" date with the girls today and asked me to fill in for her...

Old Age, I decided, is a gift...

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be.

Oh, not my body! I sometimes despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!) , but I don't agonize over those things for long.

I would never trade my loving husband, my amazing friends, my loving and dedicated dogs, or my wisdom, for less gray hair or a flatter belly.

As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.

I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement bunny that I didn't need, but looks so adorable on my porch. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things... Don't I?

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or when a beloved pet dies?

But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am fortunate to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.
So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

I like being old. It has set me free.

I like the person I have become.

I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be.

And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it)

Happy to be 55!

Thanks June!


Anonymous said...

Rock on with your bad self Ms K. Do what you like, do as you feel, you are a free spirit. Does anybody really know what time it is? Only the atomic clock knows for sure.
Agent Cicada

Anonymous said...

Lablady and Harriett!!!!
Lablady I say ditto to your comment to Harriett and double ditto to all 55+. I'm still wiping the tears of laughter away!! I love the poem on dog daze!!
Y'all (Southernese speak) have a great weekend my girls in GA!!!
So Girl

Anonymous said...

Hola Kit, todo bien aqui, poco frio con ventos.
Your labs are the greatest....

Anonymous said...

hi lablady,
i have just read your special message, i printed it out and put it in a frame and hang it up so i can see it every single day
thank you


Anonymous said...

Hey back at you!!! I guess we'll call this freaky friday!!! HA!!
I agree with your 200% about Lablady's website. It is fantastic.
I bet her students slept in their clothes each night so they could get to school quickly to see what she had planned for them. What fun they must have had!! GA school system was luck to have her as a teacher.
So. Girl

Anonymous said...



well this sucks said...

Thank you!
Your three Labradors are very beautiful as well!

Justabeachkat said...

You look beautiful! Since I just turned 56 (yikes!) and you're 55, I think we both have earned the right to do/feel exactly as this post says! Amen!


Anonymous said...

Hey Kit,
Your picture doesn't come close to matching the lady in the poem! How I wished I looked as good as you do and I'm only a year older!!

You are so right! Go with the free spirit!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the Eggnogg recipe Lablady---I've written it down, and will try it out !!!!!


k and c's mom said...

Finally: a blog I can relate to! Thanks for a great post.

Susie Q said...

This was just wonderful! I agree with every word...and you worte it so beautifully.
At 52 I am right up there with you and think silly and goofy and sassy is the way to live!

I love your dogs. They are just gorgeous. I am so glad you dropped by so I could follow you here! I had such a great time!


Anonymous said...

You are lovely and your dogs are absolutely adorable! Congratulations on your Alaskan andventure. Awesome. 29 acres in the mountains - heavy sigh - wonderful.
Hugs ~

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